What do you do after you fall short of your values? If you’re like most of us, you deflect, you hide, and you collapse into toxic shame that severs your self-trust and self-respect.
But there’s another way to deal with your failures that can actually improve your relationship with yourself and others.
This other way?

Most people walk around fighting an invisible war inside themselves.
On the outside, they play the part of the “good person.” But behind the mask lurk the emotions they’ve been told are unacceptable—envy, lust, anger, cruelty, shame. In families, in religions, in schools, the lesson was drilled in: don’t show that side of yourself.
So those parts get buried. But buried parts don’t disappear. They fester. They leak out as addictions, compulsions, betrayals, and self-sabotage. And the harder you try to repress them, the more control they end up having over your life.
Here’s the twist: those disowned parts aren’t your enemy. They hold the raw energy you need for growth, intimacy, and even leadership.