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How To Meet Women If You’re In Engineering
David Tian Ph.D. tells men to educate themselves in socializing so they can stand out.
David Tian Ph.D. asks men to not limit themselves to their industry, in this cases – it’s engineering.
In this Man Up episode, David Tian Ph.D. suggests that men should learn how to meet people most especially if they are in an all-male environment.
David Tian: Boom! Stop! In episode 48 of Man Up, we’re going to be talking about how to meet women if you’re in engineering.
Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up!
I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and this is Man Up, episode 48. The question is coming from Daniel who wants to know, “How do I meet girls if I’m in engineering?” It turns out his firm is all men except some older married ladies who do some administrative work and secretarial work. Otherwise, all of the eligible people, single people, are all male. He’s not interested in males so he’s wondering, “How do I meet people?” Context here is Singapore but this applies around the world, obviously.
Most of my guy friends, growing up – the ones who were my friends through high school and church and all that – did engineering as an undergraduate degree. So pretty much 90% or more of my best friends, growing up in Canada, went into engineering for the undergrad. And then when I went to university, a lot of my friends there, too, were also in engineering. So I get it. I know the situation. This is a similar situation where – how do I meet girls outside work?
So if you’re only used to meeting girls at work, you’re screwed. So you can’t go to your typical networking events if you’re in engineering. Here’s an exception. There are some really attractive women in engineering. There are just very few of them. If you are really good at flirting, you’re basically surrounded by – well, I’m not going to engage in the stereotypes, but you engaged in them. You’re saying engineers are not the coolest guys.
So that means that there’s not much competition. If there are attractive engineers at the big conventions or there’s some charity work you could do. As an engineer, join some charity. Or if you go to a bigger company where there are females. Or if you go to a conference or something and since there isn’t a lot of competition – there are a lot of guys. Just like a club with a lot of guys. But if they’re not competition for you then it doesn’t matter that they’re there. It’s just you and the girls so go and meet them.
You’ll be a nice surprise. Like an engineer who is charming. If you don’t know how to be charming, go to our site, www.auratransformation.org and we’ve got lots of free video courses there: “How to get a new girlfriend,” “How to make friends,” “How to enlarge your social circle,” “How to talk to new people,” “How to talk to strangers,” “How to charm people.” We’ve got lots of different video courses there to train you in that.
Of course, we also have the bigger courses that are very well priced. So educate yourself and then you’ll really stand out.
But you shouldn’t limit yourself to your industry. That’s when you really need to learn your social skills so that you can meet whoever you see, whomever you see. See somebody walking down the street, you can go and meet that person. See somebody in the Starbucks, you can go and meet that person. You see somebody in the shopping mall, you can just go and meet that person. You have to learn how to do this. Learn how to meet people. And if you do that, if you do the free video course, you can learn how to do that.
I’ve done a lot of advice on how to meet new people and none of those are predicated on having to do that at your workplace. So you’re working in an all-male environment – hey, I’ll tell you something else. I work in an all-male environment. All of the people in my company are guys. And all of my – not all, but like 90% of the client work I do is men. So I’m in the same situation as you. Just go out and meet women in places where they are.
You don’t have to wait for them to join your company or something. If you don’t have that skill yet, go and learn it. Take one of our courses or come to one of our events. If you’re in Singapore come to our events. We have very reasonably priced, or basically free, preview events. Check that out.
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