December 27, 2013
Dating Tips for Men
Did you like yesterday’s tip? Here’s another one. But before we dive in, let me remind you about what we announced yesterday: another $1,000 sale this December 30. More on this at the bottom of the email. Now, here’s your tip:
Essential NYE Tip #2: Social Proof.
What is Social Proof and why does it matter? Let me tell you something. You probably think you’re the only one in that place scoping the room for somebody. Or maybe you think only guys do it. You’re wrong. Girls do it too, and in many ways they’re much better than us at doing it!
In a split second, they can make a decision about you, while they were checking you out without your knowing it. And if you’re going to be at a party or club for a few hours, you can be sure that every girl there has already formed their opinion about you before the clock strikes 12.
This is why Social Proof matters. If you do it right… the rest of your night will be much much easier (funner!). If you neglect it, you’re in for an uphill battle. The good news is that it’s something you can do right in the first 20 minutes. Let me break it down for you simply: Social proof is people seeing that other people like you. That’s all it is.
If you’re surrounded by a group of people laughing and smiling while you’re talking, if pretty girls are around you looking like they’re having a lot of fun, that is a message sent to everyone in that place (note: every girl) that you’re someone of high social value. And when you approach someone who perceives you that way- it will be so much easier.
Tips for Men
So here are a few things you can do:
1. Be Social Immediately. With ANYONE. Remember yesterday’s tip? Chat. Early and Often. Say hello to everyone in the room. Act like you own the place and you’re welcoming people in your club. You know how some people act like they own the place wherever they go? Be that guy!
2. Let them see your face. So you’ve found a group of people you can engage. You’re genuinely interested in them and that’s making them genuinely interested in you. The conversation is flowing, they’re all smiling, you make them laugh and have fun. Don’t waste this! While this is all happening- make sure you’re facing the rest of the room and everyone can see YOU in the middle of that group/crowd/table. Even if you’re just chatting with one person- put a smile on your face, face the rest of the room, you’re on camera. The snapshot that the ladies make in their minds of you- it will stick, and you will thank me later for this.
3. Photos. Even more, take photos of you with your (new) friends using flash, and other girls will notice and be curious.
Guys, remember this isn’t about faking it. You’re not posing and pretending that you’re all that. You ARE- all that. And you need to believe it, or else this is kind of pointless. Act like it, and people will respond accordingly. You’re not using people to look cool. You’re finding people you can contribute FUN to. Your job description this New Year’s Eve- is to help others have fun. Isn’t that great? Tell yourself “I’m the fun guy. I’m the party. I can make people enjoy more. I will make them smile, laugh, party hard, and remember this night.” I never said pretend. What I’m saying is have fun, make others have fun, and just be seen by the other ladies in the room. It will make it a ton easier to open them later. And that’s how to leave an impression.
Got it? Tomorrow is the third and last tip. Stay tuned.
About the Promo:
I told you this yesterday, but on the 30th we’re giving you guys another chance to save $1,000 on our top course: the Total Transformation Program. All this stuff we’re teaching you for NYE, we get to dive into more deeply, and for the rest of the year. You can literally have New Year’s on any given night. Stay tuned for Dec 30.
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