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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has coached tens of thousands of people from over 87 countries to achieve happiness and success in their dating and love lives.

Once a nerdy, skinny professor of philosophical psychology who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach using therapeutic methods. Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, including AXN, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore. Formerly a professor at the National University of Singapore, Dr. Tian is actively researching, speaking, and publishing in the areas of philosophy and psychology.

The show, “Man Up: Masculinity for the Intelligent Man,” is David’s way of helping as many people as possible enjoy empowering and fulfilling lives, while contributing to the global understanding of masculinity in modern times. In the show, he takes your questions posed in The Man Up private Facebook group and answers based on his experience Coaching tens of thousands of students around the world for over a decade.

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How To Turn A Woman On

  • David Tian Ph.D. explores the concept on how to turn women on using your thoughts, through the science of “mirror neurons”.

  • You have to make yourself presentable, David Tian Ph.D. explains why men need to do this first.

  • If you’re already presentable, David Tian Ph.D. tell us then that men need to know how to talk to women like a normal human being.

David Tian: Boom! Stop. In episode 68 of Man Up, I answer the question of, how to turn a woman on?

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Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up!

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Hi, I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and welcome to episode 68 of Man Up. I’m here again in Jakarta hanging out in a suite with some friends. Taking the opportunity to shoot the videos and they’ve agreed because they don’t mind being on the video.

Episode 68 answering Mike’s question, “How do I turn a woman on?” There’s a long context for it but it basically boils down to how do I do that. Luckily for Mike, I’ve actually created an entire course just on this question. It’s a really old course… ah, well, it’s old for me, right. But I… just so people know, it’s called “The Desire System”. You can find it from The Social Man. It’s a company run by my buddies. It’s called The Social Man.

You can find The Desire System there. You can write directly to them at aimee@thesocialman.com she can hook you up with it. I get no commission on that… I just put that out there. I was a talent on that. We developed that like seven years ago. Since in those seven years, I’ve evolved a lot. We actually re-shot it two years later.

It’s been five years since the new version of “The Desire System”. It’s a tandem course so when you get “Desire”, you get “Lust” as well. Those are two awesome courses that I created for The Social Man, “The Desire System” and “Lust” are both on this concept of how to turn a woman on using your thoughts. It’s through the science of “mirror neurons”. You can google it and read all about it. This is standard science now. It’s not controversial in the sense of like that there are such things.

So there are mirror neurons where people – human beings – are able to feel other people’s emotions just like that. Bypasses the prefrontal cortex which is part of your brain which is responsible for processing verbal language and for processing like math and higher cognitive functioning. So whatever you say doesn’t really matter because the girl’s feeling you in a sense like she’s feeling your emotions. So when you’re really nervous, doesn’t really matter what you say.

She feels weirded out because you’re nervous. You’re projecting nervousness on to her. If you feel confident and sexual, doesn’t really matter what you say again, like you can say the dumbest things. But girls will feel the good feelings from you. Because it’s happening not in the prefrontal cortex but in the older parts of the brain that have mirror neurons.

She’s feeling your feelings, she’s actually then there’s another concept you should look up that’s related to mirror neurons which is emotional contagion. Your emotions are contagious. If you feel nervousness, she feels nervousness and get weirded out. If your feeling sexual arousal, she’ll feel sexual arousal. If you can maintain that connection long enough for the mirror neurons to take effect and it’s very fast. Within a minute, it can happen. In fact, it can happen within five seconds. But it often takes longer but no more than a minute. And all you need to do is just get her defenses down.

If she’s like suspicious and guarded because she thinks you’re doing something weird. She thinks you want something or if you have an agenda. Like that’s what most guys who approach women have. They have an agenda. They want to get something from her. They want to get a kiss. They want to get her number.

They want to get! Get! Get! And when a woman consents that you want to get, because you’re projecting it, because then again the emotions are contagious, she’s going to guard. She’s going to keep her guard up. And she’s not going to… she’s going to reject those emotions. She’s going to feel them and get weirded out. But if you can come in and not make her defensive but just as a good guy. Like you’re coming in talking about innocent things.

You have a good reason to speak to her. Or if you want to take that risk, and I recommend guys do take the slight risk of going direct and being direct about your intentions with women that you’ve just met. It’ll help you grow some balls, right. Out some hair on your ballsThen you want to make your appearance look at least presentable so that she’ll accept you from the first pass. She’ll say, “Okay, he looks good enough. Let’s see what else he’s got.” You want to get her to think that. So you got to look presentable.

Most guys who write to me, I’d say the majority of guys – seventy percent or more – of guys who are looking for advice online for dating have bad present… have bad appearance. They have bad fashion, bad grooming, bad body language, bad eye contact, bad tonality. Every single one of those factors is hampering their communication from getting in, their emotions from getting in. Actually hampering themselves from getting in.

All of those are covered in “Desire”, they’re covered in “Limitless”In this new course that’s about 10 times bigger than “Desire”Ten times more momentous is “Limitless”. In “Limitless” I cover each one of those in extreme detail like two hours modules each on body language, two hours on eye contact, two hours on vocal tonality roughly. Actually, I think it’s three hours in body language. And then, four hours in fashion. We cover all of these in “Limitless”. 

I’ve also created a free course that it’s difficult for me to distill all of those, like sixty plus… seventy plus hours of course content and try to find a way to present it in a bite size free video course or a free course. But we’re creating it now… it will be released soon. Look for the free course on how to turn a woman on. Okay, it’s a free course on how to turn a woman on. We’ll be releasing it soon but basically here’s how you do it.

The first step is you have to make yourself presentable. So if you don’t know whether you’re presentable, because you haven’t worked on yourself and by the way if you haven’t worked on yourself, if you haven’t educated yourself on fashion, if you haven’t gotten education on fashion, on postures, or on vocal tonality or on eye contact, then you probably are doing it wrong.

These aren’t things that you just learn coming out of the womb. These aren’t things that society teaches you. These aren’t things that your schools teach you. They don’t want you to be sexual… they just want you to be a good student. They’re not going to teach you this. If you haven’t been educated, you’ve got to educate yourself. Or you can go for a makeover. So if you can afford it, you can go to a fashion stylist at a good shop in Singapore. I can recommend some to you if you write to me. I get no commission out of that. So you can do that. If you’re in a major city, they often have fashion stylist for you that you can go one on one. They can give you a wardrobe makeover and so on.

So assuming you look presentable, then what you need to do is just talk to her like a normal human being. It can be a platonic conversation. Actually, it’s best if it is platonic. You’re just really friendly but you start getting aroused in yourself. So you start feeling a bit horny or whatever, right? And when you’re talking to her you start to imagine sexual thoughts and you get aroused. That will actually transfer to her in a matter of seconds.

Now, here’s what most guys do wrong! They start getting aroused but because they’re sexually immature, they don’t know how to sit with it. Because when you’re sexually mature, you can have sexual energy in you without following through on it. And if you’ve done any Tantra, you know how to move these energies around. But if you’re immature sexually…if you’re sexually inexperienced and you get arousedyou’re going to get all giddy, you’re going to get all like “hihihi”, you’re going to get out of control.

You would probably verbalize, voice things and say things that are sexual and that’s wrong, that’s bad, that’s too much. When you’re going sexual in the mind and channel of the thoughts and the channel of the verbal, it’s too much. 

Eventually when she starts to accept that, she’ll start to feel aroused. You look for those signs of her preening, maybe touching herself, maybe touching you, maybe leaning in, asking more questions, being attentive to you. Scientifically what you are looking for, that are harder to spot, but are scientifically pretty strong is dilated pupils, engorged lips, shortening of breath, so all of those show signs of arousal – are signs of arousal.

Look for those but basically if you’re feeling sexual and you’re having an innocent conversation with her for minutes like anywhere from one to five minutes, it’s already happening you can just take it for granted. And then if she’s still accepting it, just lead. Maybe you want to lead her somewhere.

So if you’re having a conversation on the couch, you’d want to say, “hey, let’s go grab a drink. Come with me.” And you can go to the bar or go to the coffee maker, whatever, and you bring her over. If she follows you, game on, right? So you’re good to go. And then you can maybe start to say the things that are more personal like “I really like ‘x’ about you”. That’s a subject for a whole other course. How to verbally escalate. But you don’t need to verbally escalate in order to arouse a woman.

You can just start with the mental… with the emotional…just start feeling aroused in yourself. Now if you’re sexually inexperienced, you’re not going to know how to control this but that’s going to take time. Okay, it’s going to take time. But there you go, that’s a very powerful thing. I cover that thoroughly in “The Desire System”. I cover that even more thoroughly in “Limitless” and I’ve just created a free course on that. That’s coming out soon, how to turn a woman on. Look out for it.

In the meantime, join the private Facebook group and ask me your questionsI’ll see you inside the group. Until next time, man up!