3 Key Tips to make your First Date Perfect

August 08, 2013

Here in Singapore, it’s back-to-back public holidays and an extra long weekend. Today is Hari Raya and tomorrow is National Day! Selamat Hari Raya to you if you celebrate it! I wish you a great time with your family and loved ones!

With all this extra holiday time, it’s a great opportunity to go out on dates with girls. Today and in the next two days, I’ll be mailing you 3 Tips–key essentials–to make sure you have the smoothest and most pleasurable dates this extra long weekend.

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How to Date a Girl

Here’s TIP #1: Plan with the Final Destination in mind

Have you ever gone on dates that went nowhere? Have you ever started a date on a high, but then as time wore on, the energy just sort of died down? Have you ever wondered how to get the girl back to your place smoothly?

This tip is for those guys who find themselves unable to escalate with the girl on their dates, either emotionally or physically.

It’s all about logistics, my friend.

Smooth logistics leads to smooth escalation.

All it takes it a little planning foresight.

How to Date a Woman

Plan the date backwards. Start with where you want to end up. This could be your bedroom, or it could be a secluded place to park your car, or it could be a romantic spot on a hill or beach.

Wherever you want to end the date, plan backwards from there.

Dating Advice for Men

If I want to take the girl back to my apartment, I’ll do reconnaissance around my neighbourhood and find at least one good date spot within a 5-10 minute walk. Then, I’ll find at least three good date spots within a 5 minute taxi ride from my apartment. Then, I’ll find at least three more good date spots within a 10 minute taxi ride away. And I will continue doing reconnaissance for date spots further away and will continue adding good date spots to my lists as I find them.

Tips for Men

+ Mini Tip #1: A good date spot would be a place that sets a romantic mood, allows you to converse comfortably, and facilitates physical closeness. Don’t sit across a table from her. Look for a place that allows you to sit side by side, which will make it easier for you to break the touch barrier.

+ Mini Tip #2: Look to change venues every 60-90 minutes. When it comes to dating, most guys just pick a spot for dinner and just stay there for the entire date. That’s a huge mistake. Unless you keep the momentum moving forward, the energy will die down. So on a 3-hour date, you should be visiting 2-3 different places on your date.

Every time you change venues, you should be moving closer to your final destination.

I like to think of my final destination as a big “X” on a map. Then I draw concentric circles around my X at various radii. The first circle is walking distance from my X, and I plot where the good date spots are within walking distance on my mental map. The second circle is a 5 minute cab ride from my X, and I plot where the good date spots are within a 5 minute cab ride of my X. The third circle is a 10 minute cab ride from my X, and I plot where the good date spots are within a 10 minute cab ride of my X. And so on.

Every time we change venues, I will take us to a place that is closer to the X on my mental map. As the date goes on, we will get closer and closer to my X, which is my final destination. In my case, that means my hotel or apartment.

Dating Tips for men

This gives your date direction, keeps the energy going, generates forward momentum, gets the girl used to following your lead, demonstrates your leadership and dominance, and makes it a whole lot easier to end up in the place where you want the date to end.

Plan with the end in mind.

Stay tuned for TIP #2.

And remember that on Sunday, August 11, I’m offering a special National Day 24-hour Sale. Here’s your chance to save $1,000.00. Stay tuned for that email.

Hope you enjoyed this!

Get it done. Get it handled.

Best, David