3 Key Tips to make your First Date PERFECT (Part 3 of 3)

August 10, 2013

Dating Tips for Men

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Speaking of investment, this third tip is all about that.

To read Part 1 of this, click here

To read Part 2 of this, click here

How to Date a Girl

Key Dating TIP #3: Minimise Your Investment

You might have noticed that all of the tips I’ve been giving you have been dismantling common misconceptions of a “good date.”

In the first tip, we looked at why just picking the “date place” isn’t good enough. You have to plan out a course of action that moves you from one venue to another and always bringing you closer to where you want to end up.

The second tip was all about showing you why a “movie date” is a bad idea even though everybody seems to do it. Instead, you need to maximise conversation with her so she can feel emotional close to you, trust you, and feel comfortable enough to be alone with you.

It’s all about taking apart mainstream society’s bad social programming about dating.

And this third tip attacks one of the biggest misconceptions about dating that is holding men back from getting what they deserve in dating relationships: Investment.

One of the most well-known principles in economics and psychology is that the more you invest in something, the more you value it.

How to Attract Women

Similarly, the more she invests in you, the more she values you. The less she invests in you, the less she values you.

Unfortunately for us men, society puts a lot of pressure on us men to invest in women early on, from childhood even.

If you are like most men, you will need to make conscious effort to resist this bad social programming.

And this pressure only gets harder and worse as time goes on in a relationship.

What Attracts Women

So you absolutely MUST establish a pattern of mutual investment early on, on the first encounter with her, which is when it is easiest for you to do so.

Mutual investment simply means that you and the girl invest about equally in the relationship or interaction.

Some examples of how investment plays out in an early dating situation include:

-Who pays money for the date (more on this a little later)

-Who travels farther for the date

-Who talks more on the date

-Who puts in more effort for the date

If the girl has agreed to take time from her schedule to spend time with just you, then she is hoping you will be an attractive man. Don’t disappoint her.

The ironic thing is that she might start off being very attracted to you, but as you invest more and more time, effort, and emotions into her, she will become less attracted to you. And if you require very little investment from her for the date, she will become less attracted to you.

So she might have been very interested in you at the beginning, but then as the date goes on, if you invest more and more and she invests less and less, she will lose attraction for you and become disappointed.

What a woman really wants deep down inside is to be rewarded for her efforts, so let her put in some effort.

For example, instead of paying for everything, keep things equal and trade. Obviously, if you make more money than she does, you should shoulder a proportionate amount of the costs, but her contribution should never be zero. Otherwise, she will be disappointed and lose attraction for you.

Tips for Men

When it comes to investment, start small and build. Get her to pay for the cab fare after you paid for the drinks. Get her to pay for the dessert at the second place if you got the wine at the first place.

When the bill comes, simply say, “I’ll get this one if you get the next one.” As you learned from Tip #1, you should be moving venues every 60-90 minutes anyway, so this helps set up the momentum. You can get the first round and she can get the second round, etc. This is what mature adults do.

Instead of going out of your way to pick her up, suggest a meeting location that’s halfway between you and her and with interesting things to do in case one of you is late, such as a bookstore or the magazine section. As you learned from Tip #1, you should be meeting her no farther than halfway between your starting points. The closer to your final destination you can get her to meet, the easier everything will be.

A wonderful date idea is to cook for each other at your place. You can go to a gourmet grocery store together to get the ingredients. When you get home, just pop open a bottle of wine to sip while you guys cook.

Even better, just get her to cook everything for you, while you prepare the dining table. All the effort and thought she put into cooking for you will make her incredibly attracted to YOU after dinner. Ironic, isn’t it? And she’ll enjoy the date and experience that much more. It’s just a fact of human psychology.

Whatever you do, remember to keep the investment equal (or better yet, have her invest slightly more). The both of you should be putting in equal time, effort, thought, and emotions into your interaction and relationship.

The more she works for it, the more she will want it. The more she invests in you, the more she will value you. This holds just as true for the crucial first date.

So that’s it for your three tips, and I trust this will help you generate a lot of momentum in your dating life and get you smoothly escalating on your dates.

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Best,
David

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